Maybe It's Not All About You
People never cease to amaze me with their selfish narrowminded behavior. Being selfish is ok, but mixing it with a spoonful of narrowmindedness is disastrous.
Imagine, if you will, some child out there thinking every idea they have is the best. The things that they think up are the only thing worth discussing or doing. Nevermind that a friend or a sibling might have a better or more thought out idea. But no, the singular idea must go on... so precious, so perfect and sometimes so wrong.
What these people never realize is that the more they push their ideas and what they think is correct, the more they push their friends and loved ones away. Either by offending them or even boring them. An exchange of ideas is what society thrives from but it must be a two way street and maybe even a six way intersection. Maybe a roundabout.
These selfish narrowminded mongers are the people who stomp around believing that they are always factually correct even when people are proving them wrong time and time again. So, I try to imagine what drives these individuals. Do they feel inferior and feel that pushing others around is way to make themselves look smarter. Are they just naive to their surroundings?
Another aspect of these people is that they believe that their wants and needs should always come first. Must be first in line. Must have the largest helping or less burnt helping of food. Make no sacrifices, others will pick up the pieces. Undergoing pain and hard work should be the hardship of others, not their own.
The worst aspect is how this type of person actually believes that their feelings should control the moods of others. If they are having a bad day, you must be having a bad day too. If you are not having a bad day, they can fix that. These people will call you, hound you and surround you with the status of their day. I have usually seen this when the person is yelling at everyone about nothing.
So, you see this child forcing their thoughts, wants, needs, facts, and feelings onto others. OK, so you call the kid a brat and move on. You think to yourself that the child will learn through hard experience how to value others that surround them.
Now imagine this person never getting the point as an adult. Better yet, as a parent? Pushing, prodding, forcing. Trying to look smart but can't pull it off. Their agenda being more important that the care for their own flesh and blood. You hear a lot about these people in the news. The drug addict. The alcoholic. The child abusing parent. Showing up on the local news with their ugly police mugshot plastered on your TV screen. These people lost complete sense of any or all reality and almost always never seem to grasp why they are in the position that they are in. These are the people who are too late to help and the ones that got caught.
What about the parents that think its ok to leave their children at home alone while they go out clubbing, drinking, dating or whatever else that drags them away from their main priorities in life? It seems to me that these selfish narrowminded people are the ones who are not caught yet or the ones who haven't hit bottom yet. They are just as guilty as the alcoholic, drug abuser or abuser. Because somewhere in their mind they are telling themselves that its ok to forget their kids for a moment because their priorities, thoughts, facts, feelings...whatever.... are more important than the safety, well-being, and growth of the ones that depend on them.
And to those selfish narrowminded individuals I say, "Maybe it's not all about you."
Imagine, if you will, some child out there thinking every idea they have is the best. The things that they think up are the only thing worth discussing or doing. Nevermind that a friend or a sibling might have a better or more thought out idea. But no, the singular idea must go on... so precious, so perfect and sometimes so wrong.
What these people never realize is that the more they push their ideas and what they think is correct, the more they push their friends and loved ones away. Either by offending them or even boring them. An exchange of ideas is what society thrives from but it must be a two way street and maybe even a six way intersection. Maybe a roundabout.
These selfish narrowminded mongers are the people who stomp around believing that they are always factually correct even when people are proving them wrong time and time again. So, I try to imagine what drives these individuals. Do they feel inferior and feel that pushing others around is way to make themselves look smarter. Are they just naive to their surroundings?
Another aspect of these people is that they believe that their wants and needs should always come first. Must be first in line. Must have the largest helping or less burnt helping of food. Make no sacrifices, others will pick up the pieces. Undergoing pain and hard work should be the hardship of others, not their own.
The worst aspect is how this type of person actually believes that their feelings should control the moods of others. If they are having a bad day, you must be having a bad day too. If you are not having a bad day, they can fix that. These people will call you, hound you and surround you with the status of their day. I have usually seen this when the person is yelling at everyone about nothing.
So, you see this child forcing their thoughts, wants, needs, facts, and feelings onto others. OK, so you call the kid a brat and move on. You think to yourself that the child will learn through hard experience how to value others that surround them.
Now imagine this person never getting the point as an adult. Better yet, as a parent? Pushing, prodding, forcing. Trying to look smart but can't pull it off. Their agenda being more important that the care for their own flesh and blood. You hear a lot about these people in the news. The drug addict. The alcoholic. The child abusing parent. Showing up on the local news with their ugly police mugshot plastered on your TV screen. These people lost complete sense of any or all reality and almost always never seem to grasp why they are in the position that they are in. These are the people who are too late to help and the ones that got caught.
What about the parents that think its ok to leave their children at home alone while they go out clubbing, drinking, dating or whatever else that drags them away from their main priorities in life? It seems to me that these selfish narrowminded people are the ones who are not caught yet or the ones who haven't hit bottom yet. They are just as guilty as the alcoholic, drug abuser or abuser. Because somewhere in their mind they are telling themselves that its ok to forget their kids for a moment because their priorities, thoughts, facts, feelings...whatever.... are more important than the safety, well-being, and growth of the ones that depend on them.
And to those selfish narrowminded individuals I say, "Maybe it's not all about you."
posted by Benners at 1:35 PM
3 Comments:
I think you should try writing for the D and have your own weekly column. You're almost the Lewis Black of blogging. I like this one.
I hate parents who put themselves ahead of their kids. My oldest sister has 5 kids, she is a single mother and takes care of them on her own, no help from the government - she won't accept that. My point is, she knows her priorities. Men come and go but you have to be there for your kids, no matter what. Once you had your first kid, your life became your kids party, not yours. Deal with it.
I see a lot of it going on around me, so I totally understand and agree sam.
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